“One in four women in the U.S. has experienced serious physical violence by an intimate partner. Most of this violence is committed by men.” says Liz Roberts, deputy CEO of Safe Horizon, the nation’s leading victim assistance organization. Too often, these same men also abuse the children of their female victims.
I should know, it happened to me. Says “Dave Navarro. An American guitarist, singer, songwriter, and actor. Best known as a founding member of the alternative rock band Jane’s Addiction (four studio albums) and as a former member of the Red Hot Chili Peppers (one album). He also released one solo album Trust No One (2001). Navarro has also been a member of the Jane’s Addiction spin-off bands, Deconstruction and The Panic Channel. Allmusic‘s Greg Prato described him as “one of alternative rock‘s first true guitar heroes”, with an eclectic playing style that merges heavy metal, psychedelia, and modern rock.Outside music, Navarro is known as the host and one of the judges on Ink Master, an American tattoo competition reality show now in its tenth season on Spike
In 1983, my mother was murdered when I was just 15 years old. In my documentary “Mourning Son,” stories unfold surrounding that tragedy. There was one particular event I had kept quiet about for most of my life.
My mother’s ex-boyfriend had threatened me with a gun and handcuffed me, leaving me terrified and helpless as I heard yelling and physical commotion downstairs between my mother and him. The crippling fear I felt as a child during this moment is unforgettable. That type of trauma is something no child should ever experience. The sad reality is that more than 3 million children in the U.S. witness domestic violence in the home every year. Most are powerless to do anything about it. As was I.
[My mother’s ex-boyfriend] couldn’t handle rejection. His actions forever changed a family.
We have to be their voice. The burden should not be put on children to either come forward or suffer in silence. As adults, we need to create safe spaces for kids and teens to talk openly about domestic violence so a child who may be experiencing or witnessing abuse can speak freely and get the help they desperately need.
My mother Connie was a beautiful, funny and kind woman. She was no doubt a “cool mom.” Unfortunately, she dated a jealous and insecure man who ultimately murdered her. Being manipulative and charming was part of his con, but it was his obsessive desire to control my mother that convinced him that she deserved to die simply because she wanted to leave the relationship. He couldn’t handle rejection. His actions forever changed a family.
I am honored to be the first male honoree for Investigation Discovery’s “Inspire a Difference” event for my advocacy efforts. Fighting against domestic violence is a selfless action I can take for children out there living in the fear of domestic violence. I do it for my mother and women like her.
If we remain silent, the insidious and rampant disease of domestic violence thrives.
That’s why I support Safe Horizon.
Paint your ring fingernail purple to show the world your #PutTheNailinIt vow to end domestic violence. A painted nail is an easy and empowering way for anyone – women, men and even children – to start a conversation about domestic violence and end the silence that so often allows it to thrive.
March 4 – 10 NO MORE Week: End Domestic Violence
If you or someone you know is experiencing Domestic Violence:
1. Call the Police 911
2. File Charges
3. Seek Shelter
4. Seek Protection Order
5. Gain Support from Local Organizations